根据2024年《音乐心理学》的一项研究，86%的流行音乐描绘了不安全依恋风格。依恋风格理论由心理学家约翰·鲍尔比和玛丽·安斯沃斯在20世纪50年代提出，认为人们的依恋风格可以分为四种：安全型、焦虑型、回避型和无序型。这些风格通常在婴儿时期通过与父母或主要照顾者的互动形成。
回避型依恋风格的歌曲
回避型依恋风格的人往往害怕承诺，倾向于避免亲密关系。以下是一些代表性歌曲及其歌词：
- Ariana Grande的《NASA》："Give you the whole world, I'ma need space"
- Taylor Swift的《This Is Me Trying》："And I just wanted you to know/That this is me trying/(And maybe I don't quite know what to say)"
- Olivia Rodrigo的《scared of my guitar》："If I was brave and noble like you/I'd have the nerve to just stop stringin' you along"
无序型依恋风格的歌曲
无序型依恋风格的人在亲密关系中表现出焦虑和回避的混合行为。以下是一些代表性歌曲及其歌词：
- Gracie Abrams的《I Love You, I’m Sorry》："I tend to laugh whenever I'm sad/I stare at the crash, it actually works"
- Billie Eilish的《Halley's Comet》："I don't want it/And I don't want to want you/But in my dreams I seem to be more honest"
- Lana Del Rey的《Happiness is a butterfly》："Happiness is a butterfly/Try to catch it, like, every night/It escapes from my hands into moonlight"
焦虑型依恋风格的歌曲
焦虑型依恋风格的人害怕被抛弃，可能会过度沟通或表现出强烈的需求感。以下是一些代表性歌曲及其歌词：
- Taylor Swift的《Cornelia Street》："And baby, I'm so terrified of if you ever walk away/I'd never walk Cornelia Street again"
- Lorde的《Liability》："I do my best to meet her demands, play at romance, we slow dance/In the living room, but all that a stranger would see/Is one girl swaying alone, stroking her cheek"
- Ariana Grande的《Needy》："I'm obsessive and I love too hard/Good at overthinking with my heart/How you even think it got this far?"
安全型依恋风格的歌曲
安全型依恋风格的人能够在亲密关系中保持健康的沟通和情感表达。以下是一些代表性歌曲及其歌词：
- Taylor Swift的《Sweet Nothing》："'Cause they said the end is comin', everyone's up to somethin'/I find myself runnin' home to your sweet nothings"
- Beyoncé的《All Night》："True love never has to hide/I'll trade your broken wings for mine/I've seen your scars and kissed your crime"
- Olivia Rodrigo的《so american》："He laughs at all my jokes/And he says I'm so American/Oh, God, it's just not fair of him/To make me feel this much"
通过流行音乐，我们可以更好地理解自己在亲密关系中的依恋风格，并找到与自己情感共鸣的歌曲。
